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Pussy whipped
Topic Started: Jun 8 2015, 12:42 AM (1,456 Views)
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Yeah, its a common issue really, especially if the person hasn't really had a girlfriend before.

Ultimately its down to him, as you want to keep your girlfriend happy, but you also need to establish early on that yeah you like them but otherwise you do have a life outside of them.
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The fact is

that His girlfriend has the pussy


You gotta deal with it


If he want to share his time with her, fine who cares.... I would not.
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It's only pussywhipped if his girlfriend is making him spend all his time with her. If he wants to do it, then he has every right to.
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It only gets worse the older you get
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It happens and pretty regularly by the sounds of things (people's examples here and my own experience). I know that each and every one of my friends do/did the same thing when they are/were in relationships (and if they didn't, meeting up time cut down significantly). I hate to admit it, but I did it when I was in one, which is hypocritical since it's one of my pet peeves. That's just the way it is: we have our family and friends for our whole lives, then one person can swoop in and take us away from them all in an instant(or so it seems when you're one of the family or friends). All you can do, if he means a lot to you, is to keep letting him know that you're there when he wants to meet up. If you're real close, bring it up with him and see if he changes. Outside of that, you just have to live with it.

I also agree with Clearin. If he's doing it out of choice, it's not pussy whipped.
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Idk I've always felt that it's a common thing when people start a new relationship.

the great thing about having a close friendship with someone is that even if you don't see each other for weeks, months, or even years, theyre easy to pick up again and when you do it's like no time has passed between you. just dont end up resenting each other thinking, "wow he doesnt want to spend time with me anymore" or whatevs.
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Jun 8 2015, 05:41 AM
Bros before hoes.
Said the guy who didn't come to San Antonio because of a proposal. ;) jk lol
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Jun 8 2015, 12:25 PM
It's only pussywhipped if his girlfriend is making him spend all his time with her. If he wants to do it, then he has every right to.
Yeah he wants to! First time in his life he's getting some. And ay, that's cool! I'm all for getting your end in and having that quality time. It's important for the relationship. But if you're gonna blow me off, not answer the phone when I ring, not return my messages, skip out on weekly agendas all because you'd rather be with her, then you're whipped hard! I'm not saying he doesn't have the right to spend time with her, I totally get that! But don't put everybody who cares about you in the dark because you've got a girlfriend.

Heaps of blokes do it and it's f***ing dumb! 9 times out of ten things get dicey with your mates, 7 times out of 10 the relationship fails, and 10 times out of 10 when the relationship fails the guy comes running back to the mates for support. You can't only have your friends when things go pear shaped. Is that fair? I don't think so.

When I call, answer the phone and tell me your busy. Don't hide behind the benefit of the doubt because you're not fooling anybody.
When I text you, get back to me so I'm not waiting by the phone like an idiot hoping to get a bone thrown my way.
When you've been doing something on a weekly annual basis, why stop it just because you have a girlfriend now? Keep it up! We have lots of fun every week, why should that change! That's unfair i reckon!
And for the love of God, if you have plans and their official, DON'T CANCEL THEM AND MAKE UP SOME BULLs***! It's rude!

This is the worst part about when your mate gets a girl. It's like you don't exist anymore
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You can't only have your friends when things go pear shaped. Is that fair? I don't think so.
it's unfair to say that imo especially how you were just talking about how you guys would do something together quite often and would have fun doing it, so it doesnt seem like he's only spending time with you when his life's pear-shaped.

no offence but the whole friendship thing goes both ways here. you've even said that this is his first real girlfriend. he's in his early to mid 20s I'm guessing? so the experience is pretty knew to him and he's more likely to be sucked in by that new-romance feeling. just give it time, let him revel in his moment and in between his woman's legs, blahblahblah, and just be there for him when he finally wants to spend time with his other friends again.

from observation, this is partly why people lose friendships while they're in a relationship. they are bound to spend more time with their new beau, but people dont get that and one or more of their friends take it as a personal hit and start resenting the person even though it has nothing to do with them. you've been friends for years, so just be happy that he's happy. i'm pretty sure he has you at the back of his mind and hasn't forgotten about you, but hopefully not when he's boning his new missus cuz that'd be weird.

sooner or later if this carries on, he's probably going to pick up on how bitter you're feeling towards him and then make his own assumptions, you guys might not talk about it directly, and before you know it youve both lost each other.
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The thing about new partnets/relationships is, you have to take them as a whole. We've all had friends go thorugh something similar, and we all feel as you have when you're all like "Dude lets go out, leave the women at home", and whilst you can still have guy time every now and again, he'll be stuck to his Mr's side for some time, prehaps even the rest of his life.

Best thing you can do is befriend her, and hang out with both of them. I'll grant you it's not the same, but if you're proper friends it wont matter that much, plus when you get to have a proper lads night out, it'll make it that much greater.

Sucks a little bit, but thats the way things go. These days I'm 27 married, and very rarely see my best mate as we both have wives/jobs/houses/kids etc, but when we do hang out......we'll go all out and get smashed hah.
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If it's that much of an issue, and he's that much of a friend, talk to him about it. He's not a mind-reader, and unless he's a member of this forum, how is he going to know how you feel? Love makes people narrow minded. When you're in a relationship, it's easy to fall into the idea that you and your partner are the only two people in the world. Maybe you bringing it up to him is what will snap him out of that. Or maybe not, and if you bring it up and nothing changes, then you just have to live with it. But how is he ever going to know if you don't bring it up?

Also, if you do talk to him, don't do so with the anger/bitterness. Even if you are angry about it, if you 'come down on him', it's probably gonna drive him further away and closer to his girl. Just bring it up lightly "Hey man, I don't see much of you these days. We need to hang out more."
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You can't only have your friends when things go pear shaped. Is that fair? I don't think so.
it's unfair to say that imo especially how you were just talking about how you guys would do something together quite often and would have fun doing it, so it doesnt seem like he's only spending time with you when his life's pear-shaped.

no offence but the whole friendship thing goes both ways here. you've even said that this is his first real girlfriend. he's in his early to mid 20s I'm guessing? so the experience is pretty knew to him and he's more likely to be sucked in by that new-romance feeling. just give it time, let him revel in his moment and in between his woman's legs, blahblahblah, and just be there for him when he finally wants to spend time with his other friends again.

from observation, this is partly why people lose friendships while they're in a relationship. they are bound to spend more time with their new beau, but people dont get that and one or more of their friends take it as a personal hit and start resenting the person even though it has nothing to do with them. you've been friends for years, so just be happy that he's happy. i'm pretty sure he has you at the back of his mind and hasn't forgotten about you, but hopefully not when he's boning his new missus cuz that'd be weird.

sooner or later if this carries on, he's probably going to pick up on how bitter you're feeling towards him and then make his own assumptions, you guys might not talk about it directly, and before you know it youve both lost each other.
You missed the context entirely man :p I was referring to other friends who have done it. Borderline lost friends who came back after their girls did them in.

And dude, again, as I said I totally get his position on things. I'm not trying to cock block him, I'm just trying to get him to answer his phone and return to our commitments.


@mitas I'd love to tell him how i feel, but he's become impossible to get a hold of :p and don't worry, I'm a qualified counselor; i know how to be gentle.
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